How To Stop Letting Negativity Run Your Life

You already know you are what you think.

This isn’t new to you. Maybe you need a reminder.

The reason I know this about you is you wouldn't be reading this in the places it’s posted online if you didn’t know this.

So yes, you understand the importance of controlling the things that go into your mind and you nod your head in easy agreement.

So the question becomes, what are you doing about it?

Are you being ruthless with what you let into your eyes and ears?

Or do you let your phone, the news, social media, your co-workers, your friends, your family, and your partner lead you into discussions, topics, ideas, and negativity you wouldn’t otherwise choose?

Stop right now.

If you want to do anything great in life, you have to become a vigilant defender of what you let into your mind and life. Having strict gatekeepers should not only be for the rich and powerful.

We all must protect our mindshare from everything that tries to come through without our approval.

If you respect yourself, you will be ok saying NO to anything and everything that tries to infect your mind.

Easier said than done, I know.

So go to the root: find the situations where things come at you so you can figure out how to deal with them on purpose.

Walk away. Change the subject.  Be nice about it. If nice doesn't work, walk away and use a matter of fact approach. Again, don't be hostile. Calm and collected always wins.

I find that you don’t have to yell or critique or shame people into changing their behavior if you plainly state what you need and what you are going to do.

If someone was yelling in your face, you’d walk away. You might explain you are going to walk away and then do it, or not. Ether way, there is no confusion about why you are walking away, so just do it.

I find this one of the best strategies for showing the world you don't accept certain things anymore. What you do always says more than what you say you're going to do.

People will respect you for it, even if they don’t always like it.

If you don’t choose what comes into your life, others will choose for you. And when that happens, what life are you actually living? Who are you actually?

This is not a light matter you can brush off or pretend “isn’t a big deal.”

It is. It’s the biggest deal. It’s the epicenter of everything in your life.

Love yourself enough to choose yourself. Choose what life you are going to live by controlling what you let into it.

Support The Show

If you’d like to support the show, head over to Stuckert to become part of my effort to share big ideas that you can use to make yourself and the world a better place.

If you hit the LIKE button for YouTube that also supports the show and subscribe so you see all then updates.

Much appreciated!

Now get out there and do something within yourself. Do something to make yourself better and the world.

I’m rooting for you.

This show is sponsored by Wild Foods CoReal Foods from Small Suppliers around the world. The products I use on a daily basis. Use code WILDCEO for 12% off your entire order.

Daily quote:

“Keep constant guard over your perceptions, for it is no small thing you are protecting, but your respect, trustworthiness and steadi- ness, peace of mind, freedom from pain and fear, in a word your freedom. For what would you sell these things?”

—Epictetus, Discourses, 4.3.6b–8

Daily tip or recommendation:

Figure out a productivity app and stick with it. I use asana personally and with our team. I was using Todoist for whale, but then brought it all together for simplicity and focus sake. The key is committing. Give yourself a 90day challenge to maintain the productivity system and never miss it.

  • Process your inbox daily.
  • Schedule things with due dates always, then if you can’t complete it, reschedule the due date. Use recurring tasks for things that have to get done.
  • Never use your memory - your memory is not a system.

Daily book recommendation:

Getting things done by David Allen.

Daily health tip:

Gratitude: there are a lot of ways to do this, a gratitude journal, thinking about things, and realizing you have so much to be grateful for, etc.

Daily Cooking Tip

Melted butter with a dash of salt is one of the easiest ways to flavor a meal. And it’s healthy!

Daily thoughts about money:

Try to focus your spending on investments... and not just actual investments, but investments in yourself and your experiences. A trip to Europe for two weeks may have a more profound effect on you than buying the new MacBook. But the MacBook also might be an investment because it could save you hours of your life waiting for our old laptop to catchup. Both hard decisions, so figure out what provides the most investment into your life.